How Your Midlife Can Be Prosperous Instead of Crisis-Ridden!
After years of study and over 400 interviews regarding their midlife, former reporter Barb Hagerty gained incalculable insight into how people thrive during the middle years. I’ve been able to distil just a few of them in this article with some context. By the way, each idea works just as well those on either side of the mid life divide.
1. Seek long-term meaning instead of short-term happiness and you’ll most likely get both.
Aristotle advised this when he discussed what to do to avoid a midlife crisis. Things such as a career change, working towards a marathon or raising wonderful children are examples. Do this instead of setting your goals towards instant gratification like eating a nice meal or enjoying a nice day at the beach as they lead to the despair of a midlife crisis. This is also one of the best things for your health and mind.
2. Do what matters to you most.
“Because of this,” Christensen mentions, “normal people who want to live happy lives (even though family is truly the greatest source of happiness) see that although they want to be happy, how they invest their energy, time and talents leads to carrying out strategies we wouldn’t want to pursue proactively.”
3. Go towards fear, not boredom.
The majority of people will have become competent at their profession by their 40s. After that, a decision needs to be made to keep playing safe or take a step into the unknown and opt for a career change.
Howard Stevenson, a business professor, maintains that the greatest cause of mid life unhappiness is risk aversion to lifestyle change. It’s the source of stagnation and resentment. Stevenson and all the career authorities interviewed didn’t suggest leaving everything behind to blindly chase a fantasy and go for a lifestyle change.
Instead, be purposeful when you’re opting for a career change in order for it to mirror your personality, talents and skills. Still, we just have one chance to play, so don’t waste time. A great quote from Stevenson recommends asking yourself “how are these glorious days left to me going to be used for the best purpose?”
4. “At all points in your life, you should be the rookie in an activity.”
These words of wisdom come from Chris Dionigi PhD, the deputy director of the Invasive Species Council. He feels that trying out a new lifestyle change and failing lets you become more robust.
To prevent his midlife crisis, he tried out comedy improv and now takes out of his schedule, many nights and weekends to ride his bicycle as a police officer for Arlington County, Va. USA.